Men that Don’t Take “No” for an Answer

Breaking Down Myths about Sexual Abuse and Rape Culture

Image by Luiz Galvez from Unsplash

As a woman in my thirties I thought that I knew how to protect myself; I felt empowered and prepared for any situation. I was unfuckwithable.

That is until I was right back in the same position as I was when I was 15 years old saying no and still being sexually assaulted by a man much stronger and larger than me.

Because of previous trauma I was hypervigilant and I thought that would be my armor.

However when it happened again I was left in a familiar panicky state of paralysis as a man I knew only for a short time managed to manipulate and coerce himself into my bed and wouldn’t take no for an answer. He insisted he had drank too much and lived far and was simply exhausted. He was over 6’5” and the couch was way too small and uncomfortable for him. “Come on, be a good host”… can you hear the eye roll in my voice? Well, he seemed like a reasonable adult and harmless enough. I had also been clear with him- to the point of brazen.



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Niina P

Just writing to stay sane. Perpetually curious about how to make life better.